But how?
" Usually, our structure comes from changing clothes and changing location to go to our different activities. You create a before and after, there is a separation in time and in space. That is a grounding structure that gives us a sense of stability, an inner anchor. All of that got dissolved. Completely dissolved. Coming back to the office is coming back to the restaurant, coming back to seeing people in person, will demand a reconstitution of all these boundaries, of all the structural elements of our lives, that orient us ".
This above is a short excerpt from the very interesting conversation between Esther Perel and Jessi Hempel that you can listen to in it’s entirety here:
Or read here
And this is a part of the conversation that I really like to highlight:
" People will argue about issues of power and control. It doesn't matter what is the narrative that they're using. If it's the meeting that they attended or didn't attend, or the input they were invited to join to add or not. The issue is power and control.
Whose priorities matter? Whose opinion is taken into account? Who was included or excluded? Number two is about care and closeness. Do you have my back? Can I rely on you? Can I trust you? Are we in this together? Do we have a shared interest here? And number three is integrity and recognition. Do you value me?
And if you take all our human stories, you will begin to see that in the end, they can all be about one of these three things.
And if you listen from that place, then these are the human dimensions that in your book will be similarities, but they're not similarities of issues.
They are similarities of what are some of the fundamental needs that human beings have in order to get along ".
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